He was right. It wasn't. Honestly, it never is; not in the sense that he means 'fair.' Fair, for him, at his age, is exactly the same. In that sense, fair is never achievable. I cannot make their lives exact duplicates of one another, nor would I want to. It would not be beneficial. Each child has their own personalities, talents, and interests. Their individual lives reflect those differences.
And, while my husband and I make their lives 'fair' in the sense that each is treated equally, it may not always seem like that to each child.
Their child perspective is different from our parent perspective.
My husband and I see events, friendships, and influences from a different point of view and hopefully with more wisdom. Our decisions, while fair, will not always be seen as such by our children. It is something I am willing to accept. As they grow, they will learn, gaining wisdom and maturity in their perspectives.
Yet, I have to wonder, do I do the same with God?
Do I cry out, "That's not fair!" in moments of my life? When another seems to have an easier life, more blessings, better talents, or greater adventures, do I question the fairness of the One who is truth and wisdom?
Sadly, there have been, and will be, moments when I do. Why can I accept that my children's lives will never be the same, and yet I sometimes look to another's situation and compare mine; judging it 'not fair'?
“For My thoughts are not your thoughts,
Nor are your ways My ways,” declares the LORD.
“For as the heavens are higher than the earth,
So are My ways higher than your ways
And My thoughts than your thoughts.”
~ Isaiah 55:8 NASB
It is in these times, I must be reminded that I do not see the whole picture. When my focus is small, my thoughts are small and selfish, centering on my desires and definition of 'fairness.' I must let go of my own sense of 'fairness,' with its incorrect assumptions and inaccuracies, and trust the One who sees and knows all as He brings events and people into my life to change and grow me during this lifetime.
Please widen my perspective, and grant me
wisdom to see my life's situations as You do.
For those times when I cannot understand,
Lord, please grant me the peace to know
You have filtered the moments of my life
through Your loving hands, and
will guide all my steps,
each and every
This post has been linked to A Holy Experience for Walk With Him Wednesdays.
This week's topic is letting go.